For a start, don’t panic…
Sometimes it just happens. It could be that the love of your life is a little bit clueless when it comes to style and picked an engagement ring that you’re just not that into. It could be that you picked a ring that really spoke to you at the time, but a few years later your tastes have evolved and you’re not such a fan anymore. Or it could be that one day you just spotted something else that you love, and feel like a trade. Whatever the reason, it’s OKAY to want to swap your engagement ring for something different.
An engagement ring is a physical symbol and identifier of your life-long commitment to another person. It’s meaningful yes, but remember what it is; a physical symbol, not the be all and end all. So, again, there’s no need to panic. Here’s what to do:
First, wait a while. Live with your ring for a couple of weeks or months – you can’t be absolutely sure you don’t want it until you’ve actually worn it and gotten used to it. If it was a surprise proposal, remember your husband to be probably spent a long time trying to decide what you’d like. Tact is key.
Talk honestly to your significant other about it. Explain that you really do appreciate the effort and expense, but if it’s okay with them, you’d like to see if there’s something else that might suit you a little better. Don’t put too much focus on why you don’t like it!
Check the paperwork and your consumer rights. Are you entitled to an exchange or a full refund? Is there a deadline for returning? Do you still have the receipt, certificate, packaging? Next, think about whether you want to get your new ring from the same jeweller or somewhere else. Have an idea of what kind of ring you do want before returning to the jeweller.
Before you take the plunge and head back to the jewellery store, take a last detailed look at the ring. What exactly is it that you don’t like about it? Could you modify the design to make it more to your liking? You’d be surprised what a difference an extra detail can make. If it’s a matter of swapping a stone or adding some pizazz to the band, it can most likely be done with minimum cost and hassle.
If you’re still adamant that you want a change, then go right ahead. After all, it’s something you’ll be keeping and wearing for the rest of your life, so you may as well love it as much as your future spouse.